Unscientific Data-Gathering

[leahbobet]

Okay. For a variety of reasons, mostly involving long-term relationships, I've not dated very much in the past seven years. It occurs to me I have no idea what's standard.

Of course, I am solving this via silly internet polling. :p

Life's more fun that way.

(Sorry, I know this poll is kinda heteronormative. If I could cash in for the shot that makes me like girls more, I would probably do so at this point out of sheer frustration, but it's not the dynamic I'm trying to figure out at present.)

[Poll #1101787]

Science thanks you.

Comments

[maradydd.livejournal.com]

As for "when is the appropriate time to broach questions of the sexual nature with a girl?", I have to say "whenever you are ready for whatever response you are going to get." By "ready", I mean "capable of handling said response in a mature and non-dramatic fashion".

I'm currently friends with people who I shot down when they hit on me less than 24 hours after meeting me, because they (1) weren't jackasses, and (2) continued to be interesting. There are also people I no longer speak to because, despite how long a friendship we'd had, they could not get it through their heads that no means no and I'm not kidding.

[maradydd.livejournal.com]

Hah, and I am totally not a boy but I answered the boy question anyway. Genderfuckery FTW!

[leahbobet.livejournal.com]

Curse you! It all would have worked too, if not for those damn kids!

[leahbobet.livejournal.com]

I think what I'm tiptoeing around is: when boys start asking things of a sekshul nature before the second (or first!) date, is my reaction of 'well I know what you're here for and therefore I'm no longer interested' a holdover of a younger/flinchier attitude or am I seeing something genuinely at issue?

Clearly I had to make a pretzel of myself first to find that out. :p

[maradydd.livejournal.com]

I dunno. I tend to like it when people are clear and up-front, because otherwise I end up dropping brownie crumbs down the front of my dress in a dexterity-less attempt to gauge their interest by flirting with them myself. But maybe that's just me.

Questions of a sekshul nature are not necessarily clear or up-front, though.

[leahbobet.livejournal.com]

Heh. Yeah. I think we have different approaches to stuff. *g* I'd wear a turtleneck to make sure the eyes were actually staying above the neck.