1) Uh, I don't think anyone's ever said that to me. I think it would mildly squick me, but I would assume it was meant as a joke, hah-hah, aren't I cute when I'm nervous? And boys are cute when they're nervous. So not an auto-dump, but no points either.
I am unqualified to answer 2), both in terms of relative equipment and because I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where the boy broached The Sex Question. It was always me. OK, Dan met me halfway, but in general I am waaaay too impatient to wait and be chased. Or chaste.
Anyone with my life interests is by definition terribly intelligent. He chose RIGHT. *grin*
Everyone's different. But in general, if someone makes me edgy, that at the very least tells me they didn't know me very well, which is not a turn-on. I like my men to pay attention to who I am, not who they think I am or what their buddies/movies/culture tells them girls are.
I've had three boyfriends and two one-night stands, and only one of those would I consider a mistake. And I never slept with anybody who made me feel awkward, squicked, or like I was acting a part or playing a game. That's a loosing street.
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Date: 2007-12-08 04:01 am (UTC)I am unqualified to answer 2), both in terms of relative equipment and because I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where the boy broached The Sex Question. It was always me. OK, Dan met me halfway, but in general I am waaaay too impatient to wait and be chased. Or chaste.
Anyone with my life interests is by definition terribly intelligent. He chose RIGHT. *grin*
Everyone's different. But in general, if someone makes me edgy, that at the very least tells me they didn't know me very well, which is not a turn-on. I like my men to pay attention to who I am, not who they think I am or what their buddies/movies/culture tells them girls are.
I've had three boyfriends and two one-night stands, and only one of those would I consider a mistake. And I never slept with anybody who made me feel awkward, squicked, or like I was acting a part or playing a game. That's a loosing street.
IMO, obviously. Your milage may vary.