I'd like to ask you to reread the above post and the comments to it: I don't believe at all that we're getting offended on the behalf of Connie Willis. I'm actually pretty offended on my own behalf, because the community that I'm part of chooses to condone, look the other way on, and apologize for this kind of behaviour every day. People weren't shocked that it happened, they were shocked that it happened to Connie Willis in the most public space at Worldcon. That's the attitude that needs changing in fandom and prodom.
I'm glad that your comfort with other people and your physical space is so...well, comfortable. It's a tough thing to achieve for a lot of people, especially people who are not as happy with their bodies, shy, or just introverted/have a strong sense of what is their personal space allotment. I'm sure you understand, however, that your sense of personal space is not mine is not the next person's, and the next person has to have a place where they're comfortable to hang out and work too. We can't just leave it at you and me.
I respect that you're waiting to hear what all parties have to say about it, but I'll ask you to please likewise respect that for many people this has highlighted a recognized issue in the community, and we don't require the participants in what can be termed the straw that broke the camel's back to weigh in on an issue they're only tangentially involved in.
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timeasmymeasure
Re: outside looking in
Date: 2006-09-02 07:29 pm (UTC)I think the video is pretty conclusive stuff.
I'd like to ask you to reread the above post and the comments to it: I don't believe at all that we're getting offended on the behalf of Connie Willis. I'm actually pretty offended on my own behalf, because the community that I'm part of chooses to condone, look the other way on, and apologize for this kind of behaviour every day. People weren't shocked that it happened, they were shocked that it happened to Connie Willis in the most public space at Worldcon. That's the attitude that needs changing in fandom and prodom.
I'm glad that your comfort with other people and your physical space is so...well, comfortable. It's a tough thing to achieve for a lot of people, especially people who are not as happy with their bodies, shy, or just introverted/have a strong sense of what is their personal space allotment. I'm sure you understand, however, that your sense of personal space is not mine is not the next person's, and the next person has to have a place where they're comfortable to hang out and work too. We can't just leave it at you and me.
I respect that you're waiting to hear what all parties have to say about it, but I'll ask you to please likewise respect that for many people this has highlighted a recognized issue in the community, and we don't require the participants in what can be termed the straw that broke the camel's back to weigh in on an issue they're only tangentially involved in.
Thanks for your thoughts and opinion!