So nice to know there's another "morning person" on LJ. Not that I managed to get up as early as usual today, but still.
As I see it, the biggest problem in dealing with this kind of thing is the differential between perceptions of male and female sexuality. In general and historically, male sexuality has not been used to demean the humanity and dignity of men. As a result, asking a guy how he would feel about being treated that way tends to backfire, because to a great many of them the idea of being groped by a lusty female doesn't seem like a bad thing. (Being groped by a lusty male might get a different reaction, but let's not bring homophobia into this, okay?)
So the problem is, what analogy or argument would actually *work*? "How'd you like it if somebody treated your mother/sister/girlfriend/wife like that?" is also unsatisfactory to me, because it draws on the "women are possessions to be hoarded" (whore-ded?) meme. So, what? I've been stumped.
Writing this out has made me think, though, why do we need to convince men that *they* wouldn't like like it? Damn, but that power differential has seeped into my *bones.* It should be enough to convince them that *we* don't like it, and that that's a good enough reason to not assault us AND to protest when other guys do!
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Date: 2006-08-30 11:12 am (UTC)As I see it, the biggest problem in dealing with this kind of thing is the differential between perceptions of male and female sexuality. In general and historically, male sexuality has not been used to demean the humanity and dignity of men. As a result, asking a guy how he would feel about being treated that way tends to backfire, because to a great many of them the idea of being groped by a lusty female doesn't seem like a bad thing. (Being groped by a lusty male might get a different reaction, but let's not bring homophobia into this, okay?)
So the problem is, what analogy or argument would actually *work*? "How'd you like it if somebody treated your mother/sister/girlfriend/wife like that?" is also unsatisfactory to me, because it draws on the "women are possessions to be hoarded" (whore-ded?) meme. So, what? I've been stumped.
Writing this out has made me think, though, why do we need to convince men that *they* wouldn't like like it? Damn, but that power differential has seeped into my *bones.* It should be enough to convince them that *we* don't like it, and that that's a good enough reason to not assault us AND to protest when other guys do!