>As for the question to the boys, if I may put my girl two cents in I think that really depends what type of sexual question is asked, how it's asked, and how you feel about the individual person who is asking.
Yeah, I ditto this completely. I mean, I've gotten, "...you want to go upstairs?" on what was essentially a first date and that was fine and not creepy in the slightest. And I've gotten, "I'll call you!" and I was sitting there thinking, "Gosh, I really wish you wouldn't." So.
I do think that part of the creep factor is...attentiveness? Responsiveness? Not just how I'm feeling about the other party, but how they're picking up on how I'm feeling. A creepifying question is, I think, creepifying in part because it's totally out of tune with the signals I'm sending. But the same question at the same time could be perfectly okay if I wasn't, frex, edging for the door.
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Yeah, I ditto this completely. I mean, I've gotten, "...you want to go upstairs?" on what was essentially a first date and that was fine and not creepy in the slightest. And I've gotten, "I'll call you!" and I was sitting there thinking, "Gosh, I really wish you wouldn't." So.
I do think that part of the creep factor is...attentiveness? Responsiveness? Not just how I'm feeling about the other party, but how they're picking up on how I'm feeling. A creepifying question is, I think, creepifying in part because it's totally out of tune with the signals I'm sending. But the same question at the same time could be perfectly okay if I wasn't, frex, edging for the door.
If that makes any sense?