I struggled with a lot of this when I went on my kick vs. Pimp the Backhanding and White Wolf. Also, I'm re-reading 'Lip Service' by Kate Fillion, so there's a lot about mal and female tangled up in my head; I don't know how coherent it will be.
I've found that, in 'geek' cultures, there's a sort of weird throwback time bubble - for whatever reason (lack of female visibility for some time, etc.), women are rarely treated as equals, and this shows up in behaviour, cover art, wording... and so on and so on. I think there's a lot of leeway that men are given because SF/Anime/Gamer men are supposedly socially backwards - so even the guys who should know better display behaviour that is unacceptable.
I don't know if there's something to the idea that men use the accepting nature of fandom as an excuse - surely, if there's room for everyone, there should be room for sexism - or 'male rights' or something.
I like Hines' idea of the flyer if it's going to be enforced - if so, it could go a long way to making people feel safer. And that's all people, as I understand from friends that gay men can get a lot of the same crap.
Visibility, to me, is key. Speaking out is key. For every discouraging 'you take all this too seriously' crap comment, I like to believe there's at least one person that agrees.
I wish I'd gone to TTrek this year - I was supposed to be on a panel about how not to be a social moron with women at cons. It might have been interesting.
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I've found that, in 'geek' cultures, there's a sort of weird throwback time bubble - for whatever reason (lack of female visibility for some time, etc.), women are rarely treated as equals, and this shows up in behaviour, cover art, wording... and so on and so on. I think there's a lot of leeway that men are given because SF/Anime/Gamer men are supposedly socially backwards - so even the guys who should know better display behaviour that is unacceptable.
I don't know if there's something to the idea that men use the accepting nature of fandom as an excuse - surely, if there's room for everyone, there should be room for sexism - or 'male rights' or something.
I like Hines' idea of the flyer if it's going to be enforced - if so, it could go a long way to making people feel safer. And that's all people, as I understand from friends that gay men can get a lot of the same crap.
Visibility, to me, is key. Speaking out is key. For every discouraging 'you take all this too seriously' crap comment, I like to believe there's at least one person that agrees.
I wish I'd gone to TTrek this year - I was supposed to be on a panel about how not to be a social moron with women at cons. It might have been interesting.